DENOUEMENT (I WON’T BE THERE)

So I picked my life and followed him in the middle of November

In that suitcase held my dreams, hopes and all I can remember

Not once did I look back at the life I had created

Not once did I question my decision that they all debated

If only they could see the crack in his soul that needed me, I thought

Or the emptiness and vacuum that engulfed him, of sort

Or the plans I made to repair the broken mold with my hand

Or the hope he has to build our home in a foreign land

Lost in a fairytale trance that stifled my worries, we set sail

Determined to reach the promise land he had described, without fail

So engrossed with steadying the troubled waters and turbulent winds

That I failed to the see the frog that could not turn into a prince

Too far in the journey to turn back, too late to pray

Too weak from holding the reins, too broken to stay

In the distance, I catch a glimpse of the promise land drawing near

My heart holds no anticipation, for I know, I won’t be there

I won’t be there when the fireplace is lit and the house warms

I won’t be there when dinner table is set and the ambience transforms

For even if he has built a mansion, a castle or a dome

Of one thing I'm sure. Two strangers cannot make a home.

THE LIST

This article is for the “picky” people who feel like no one is perfect for them. I may have an idea of what the problem is.

Most relationship Psychologists advise people searching for long term-partnerships to create “THE LIST” with as many revisions as possible. The principle of The List suggests for men and women to itemize traits and characteristics that they look for in a partner as ridiculous as it may be.

The aim is to restrict the amount of partners one goes through in an attempt to find a match. Psychologists reason that one has to meet at least 70% of the requirements enlisted as this allows for a fair selection process.

MEN ARE LIKE SHOES

This may sound very weird to most but I tend to compare men to shoes! Stay with me as I explain

Someone once said that with the right pair of shoes, you can conquer the world and a lot of people have come to believe that. The same is true with the right man by your side.

I'm sure we all know that feeling when we find a good pair of shoes at an amazing price that fits perfectly; the happiness it brings with it is immeasurable. We wear them to the best parties, strut a little differently and stay longer to make sure every one notices them. We match our outfits, demeanour and even mood to this amazing piece of support while we wait for the compliments to pour in. Are you starting to see the similarity to a good man?

A good pair of shoes provides support, happiness, and the confidence needed to take on the world. A good man provides these and a lot more and I would like believe that acquiring both follow the same principles. Again, please stay with me.

When that time comes and you have save up a good amount of money for shoes you have waited so long to acquire, you head down to the store to make them yours. It is very likely that once you get there, the shoes do not live up to your expectations or maybe they do and that’s wonderful. However if they don’t, you search around and try on a few till you find something that fits right.

It is also possible that the shoes fit perfectly the first time but when you get home, everyone hates them and you eventually see what they are talking about when you can no longer bear the pinch. You either live with the horrible purchase or go out and find another pair.

With Men and shoes, it is important to know what you want and what makes you happy. Again, it is also important to know the kind that brings out the best in you and your outfit. There are certain shoes that are not good for us or don’t fit right but because they are in style, we go for them and there are the ones that provide good support but are not fashionable to everyone. The trick is to trust you gut and remain firm in your decision.

In picking the right pair of shoes or men, it is very smart to write a list of the qualities that will complement your style and personality and strive to be the legs or woman that fits all shoes or relationships. We all know someone with those amazing legs that make every pair of shoes look good! The benefit of doing this is to save the time spent trying every pair. It also cuts out the unwanted pairs or men that do not fit the list.

I would like to finally add that just like men, shoes can only do so much. So, it is only fair not to expect too much from them. They cannot make you happier, prettier and smarter if you do not embrace those qualities. They cannot attract wealth to you if you are not ambitious. They will never look good if you don’t care for them properly.

If you do not have the confidence and finesse to rock your shoes or men and bring out the best in them, the lifespan will be a very short and/or unhappy one.